These are three simple shifts that have had a profound impact on my state of mind when it comes to joy. Joy is a high energy emotion and the more you have it the more you get it. You want to try to move out of low vibrancy thought processes to attract less of it.
- Complaining about things you can’t change or choose not to change.
Everyone seems to think that as soon as something terrible happens if you can vent about it you will feel better and you may feel it in the moment but it is only attracting more of those same thoughts. Our brains have a certain amount of thoughts that repeat over and over again. If you notice what you complain about I am sure it isn’t the first time this complaint has come about.
It is really hard to have a joyful life when you are always looking at what is wrong. You may be thinking well, think do bother me, what am I supposed to do? Pretend it isn’t happening? No, you are either supposed to accept the situation for what it is or walk away from it. Say you have a boyfriend who always hurts you over and over again. You complain about him over and over again. Nothing is changing but you do have the power to stop that complaint. You can decide either I am going to try to work through this relationship and see the good in it or I am going to walk away. That is how you make room for joy in your life.
As Albert Einstein says insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results. My rule is if I am complaining about something more than once I am either going to change it or leave it. It is hard for many to do because we become so attached to the emotions of complaining like self pitty and excuses.When you feel the complaints coming on what I do is say 5 things I am grateful for instead. Complaining lowers your energy frequency and you attract more of what you complain about. Your words are so powerful. Use them wisely. Pick joy. Take control over your life.
- I HAVE TO VS I GET TO.
If you’ve been around for a bit you know I have mentioned this before. It has CHANGED EVERYTHING FOR MY MINDSET. I feel in this constant state of gratitude which as you may know increases your energy and you attract more to be grateful for. The truth is the mind is very literal when you say you have to do something it sounds like a chore you don’t want to do. The literal truth is that we dont have to do anything. When your mind hears I have to it goes into a lower energy.
You get to do it all. Even the most boring things you dont have to do. You get to do laundry, you dont have to do it. You get to go to the DMV because you are fortunate enough to be driving or having an ID not everyone is so lucky. You get to go to work because you are lucky enough to have a job. I so this for literally everything now. I started with one thing and catching myself each time and adding more. Now I do dishes and I am like I ge to do dishes because I am lucky enough to have dishes to do.
WARNING: This will make you so much more grateful, thankful and joyful.
- You are seeing people from the lens of your life.
When we can be conscious of this we can have so much more joy. It allows you to forgive quicker instead of holding onto hate or resentment. Say someone really hurt you by talking badly about you. You hold onto the anger of them they aren’t being hurt but you are. For me changing the mindset from this is who they are to I am viewing them this way because of my life experiences is transformative. Sometimes people mess up. We do not have to have them in our life but we also do not have to hold onto the burden.
The truth is someone else may not be bothered at all with that person doing that or they may not care. You care because of your past experiences that have shaped you. Taking a look at our own biases and the biases of others can help us to be understanding and not over react. It can help us to let go and forgive. All things that are needed to be joyful. It is not possible to be both. You can choose to understand that our life lenses have shaped us.
Love,
E. Maloku
